11 tearing elements of Negative attitude!

It is necessary to identify the negativity in your attitude. What is negative attitude? Negative attitude is when you start focusing on the problems that you might face during your efforts to achieve your goals. It is the lack of hope that things will happen to help you out in your mission. It is the feeling that people will not help you because on earlier occasions you met with rejections. Negative attitude is the lack of your conviction that you can overcome the hurdles that you might face during your journey. In a sense, negative attitude is also a lack of belief in you. Some more symptoms of negative attitude are enumerated below:

  1. Laziness: When you think you don’t have the energy to get up and do the work. Sometimes you don’t even think and realize that laziness is simply whiling away the time. It is not even procrastination which will be described separately.
  2. Low self esteem: It is an extremely harmful attribute in your personality. You start thinking that you are good for nothing. You accept the situations in which you are because your self esteem is so low that you think you can do nothing better.
  3. Low productivity: Work has a strange tendency of expanding as per the time available. Even worse is when no time is allotted for the completion of a task. This gives you a feeling of solving certain important problems whereas in fact you are just being satisfied in remaining busy. This approach will never allow you to increase your productivity. For doing more in a given time, you have to stretch yourself. Therefore is it necessary that you allot specific time duration for a task. In the beginning, the allocation may seem difficult, but once you form a habit it will become much easier. Difficult or easy, it is necessary.
  4. Lack of initiative: For any significant progress, initiative is necessary. What is initiative? Initiative is your first step for going ahead with a task. When it is something new, you have to creatively think and courageously take the first step, even if there is some risk. No risk is the biggest risk in life. Any significant initiative cannot be taken to move forward without accepting this reality. So don’t be afraid to take initiative.
  5. Not listening to understand: In the course of conversations, sometimes we tend to focus so much on what we have to say, that we stop listening to the other person. This is particularly so when the speaker has said something for which we have a ready argument to negate what he has said. Unfortunately, such a habit does not allow us to listen and assimilate what the speaker says after that. Evidently it leads to miscommunication and problems. The solution is first understand and then be understood.
  6. Faking: We feel envious of some people who are more successful in the material sense than we think that they deserve. Such a feeling leads us to a myth that it is their style which makes them successful and we try to imitate their conduct. This is a extremely bad situation. We lose belief in ourselves, and how can we expect that others will believe us.
  7. Not trying to express: When we have certain ideas, but either we do not want to express, or we are afraid to express, is also indicative of our negative attitude. It is necessary to develop an ability to express without hesitation. The fear of rejection which takes away your ability to act is one of the serious handicaps.
  8. Not learning lessons from mistakes: There is no one who does not commit mistakes. Whenever we undertake something new, mistakes may happen. This is normal. However, repeating the same mistake again and again, is neither normal, nor should be acceptable. Thus we must learn lessons from our past mistakes and use these lessons to direct our future efforts.
  9. Ego: Ego happens to be another aspect of personality which does not allow us to grow. Ego comes in the way of our approaching people to help us. It makes us believe that it is below our dignity to seek help. A success Guru had said that there are eleven principles of achieving success. And what are these eleven principles? These are, ask, ask, ask….(eleven times).
  10. Jealousy: Jealousy is a negative emotion which keeps sapping our creative energies. We gain nothing in the process. It makes us feel as victims of fate or poor destiny. Jealousy may even take away our sound sleep. The worst part is that sometimes it cannot be contained, it goes on swelling. Jealousy must be thwarted out of the personality.
  11. Avoiding hard work: There is only one way to success, and that is the hard way. If we habitually seek short cuts it will be very difficult for us to work hard. What is working hard? When you are fully devoted to completing the job and you forget even your surroundings, you continue to work even when you are tired because you want to complete. That aspect of work may be termed as hard work. Initially it may be very difficult, but then one can form a habit. For any significant progress, hard work is necessary.

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Fade out Ego Fade in Innovation


Hi, today I will talk about how Ego impedes the characteristic qualities of a leader. Ego must not inflict anyone but when we talk about a leader, Ego is suicidal. I will also talk about the importance of innovation, so far as a leader is concerned. A vibrant leader looking ahead must be a hungry innovator.

First of all we must define innovation. What is innovation? Why it is necessary? Why innovation is critical for a leader? What are challenges which trigger innovation? Can a person be innovative and still harbor ego in his personality? Not at all. Ego is not self-esteem as it may be misunderstood at times. It is the way of thinking about you. Your behavior reflects the same. You don’t compromise and ask for help because it hurts your ego.

Anyone who wants to innovate cannot do all by himself. He may need help from many individuals connected with the subject. Their inputs often plays a vital role in any innovative project.

But the leader has to be a people’s man. A British Prime Minister was asked why do you follow your followers. To this he said “I am their leader, they have made me. I have to earn the leadership.” A leader has to be a follower first and then alone he/she can be a great leader. So the ego or the false pride does not have any place in the way leader lives.

Having talked about how the innovation and ego or false pride cannot exist. I will now talk about what is innovation? How does it come about? And what the leader must look for while handling an innovative project.

First, what is innovation? How does it happen? An idea comes to the mind of the leader. The idea has to be concerned with some burning problems which cry for situation. Then the idea is brainstormed by the leader and the team. Various possibilities are worked out. The role of the team is as important as of the leader who is the chief motivator. They all work together to formulate a plan. The plan is then put to action under supervision of the leader.

I may say here that it is not necessary that the original idea must come from leader. It may come from any team member. But the leader ensures that the innovative project moves as per leader’s design. He/she is the project manager.

Having defined ego and having explained how ego or false pride and innovation cannot co-exit. I will now try to explain what the leader looks for before embarking upon any innovation or innovative project. He must examine the following 3 aspects of the innovative product/ project or solution:

  1. It must be desirable by the users. There must be a need and it should fulfill the same.
  2. Secondly it must be economically viable. Anything which does not make business sense has no place in business
  3. It should be possible with the available technology as on date. It should not depend on technology which has not been tried and tested or which is not in use successfully.

Lastly I must speak about the benefits of innovation. There are immense benefits as follows:

  1. It improves productivity.
  2. It reduces cost.
  • It brings about better quality.
  1. It helps building a product range.

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The Dictionary meaning of Poise is composure or self-possession or equilibrium.

Thus a poised person is self-assured and carries himself/herself gracefully and with dignity.

For human beings the difficulty arises due to emotions. If anything is not happening as per the expectation, the individual is likely to react in a way which is often irrational. Poise is difficult to maintain. However, the benefits are immense. A poised person is able to deal with all kinds of people calmly and elegantly.

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How to maintain poise? Psychologists after research have come to certain conclusions, which I would like to reproduce below:

The biggest enemy of poise is anger. Everyone would agree that anger is not beneficial to the individual under any circumstances. A person gets angry due to uncomfortable situations due to uncomfortable situations or due to his/her own inadequacies to meet the situations. One may also get angry if someone insults or speaks in a manner which is unworthy. But with practice one can meet all challenges. They can remain cool in all circumstances but this will happen with consistent efforts and self awareness.


You should laugh with others even if joke is on you. Any sarcastic remarks can easily be laugh away. Apply mind to come out with the solution. This will happen if you take things in their straight.

Life is mixture of highs and lows. Good things are followed by challenges just like night falls after day the life does not offer a regular cycle like night and day. But both difficulties and happy moments are a part of everybody’s’ life. We need to be appreciated. Keep your spirit up even when things go wrong.

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Ego is another enemy of poise. Unfortunately this malady is wide spread. It is found in most well-to-do people. Realizing that ego does not serve any purpose we should throw it out from our life.

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